In 2014, my oldest of two boys, Chase, died in a drug-impaired wreck after struggling with addiction for a year and a half.  When I first learned of his drug habit, I didn't know anything about substance use disorders, and I panicked.  I made a lot of mistakes. 

 

Through an intervention, I was able to get Chase into treatment, but I didn't realize the proper role of the family in the recovery process.  In some ways I was enabling Chase and doing things that may have contributed to his eventual relapse. 

I worried about Chase constantly, but it seemed as though all of my efforts to help him only made matters worse.

That's why after Chase died, I decided to completely immerse myself in learning everything I could about substance use disorders. (drug & alcohol addiction)  

I wrote a book about Chase's life.  I began doing drug prevention speaking.  I read books about addiction, attended seminars, and watched videos.  I volunteered to facilitate a peer support group for parents with children struggling with a substance use disorder.     

 

There is no cure for a substance use disorder, but I have discovered the steps parents can take to give their child the best opportunity at long-term recovery.  

I learned how to turn my pain into purpose.  I have grown as a result of the pain and I can help you do the same thing.  After all, what choice do you have?  You have no control over your child struggling with a drug addiction, but you do have control over yourself.  

My wife, Kim, and I have come through all of the turmoil of Chase's addiction and death with our marriage intact. I have a great relationship with our youngest son who is a college senior and surrounds himself with good people.  

And let me tell you, after struggling with trying to control my addicted son and trying to control my emotions...

After getting frustrated for so long without getting any real results...

Make no mistake, This certainly did not happen overnight. I have been on a journey that has allowed me to grow into a more resilient person.  Of course, I miss Chase every day, yet I've been able to create a happy and fulfilling life with many great relationships.  I've become a better communicator and was able to get off the emotional roller coaster. 

 

Now, my mission is to help people just like you learn to manage your emotions and create a life that brings you fulfillment all while putting yourself in a position to have more influence with your addicted child.